Couples Counseling

Couples Counseling

Helping partners give and receive love, gain feelings of intimacy and trust, and transform their relationships to a fulfilling and a joyful one.

Having a high conflict relationship can be emotionally draining. It may cause both partners feelings of rejection and loneliness. Living in an unhappy relationship may lead to depression, anxiety, or addiction. Children that grow up in such an environment may become distressed or even engage in self destructive activities.

Couples therapy is not about trying to change or complain about your partner but learning how to better understand, respect, and appreciate his or her perspective and feelings. It is about stopping the blame, the criticism, and the repeating painful dysfunctional pattern that leads to unhappiness and divorce.

It is possible for you and your partner to overcome many relationship challenges of resentment, frustration, and withdrawal, restore your love to each other and create the relationship you wish. As your relationship therapist I will also address the physical and emotional need for intimacy, how it changes over the life of the marriage or relationship, and how to revive and maintain the spark. 

The goal is not only to resolve problems, but to get to the heart of the matter, gain clarity about the relationship, and take action to avoid future misunderstanding.

My Approach

I specialize in helping couples go through difficult times and create trusting, supporting, and nurturing relationship that increases their overall well-being.

In relationship counseling each of you will:

• Gain insight about yourself and the nature of your relationship
• Work on yourselves first and strengthen your positive attitude and let go of ineffective responses 
• Recognize changes you can make yourself that will promote satisfaction in your life and relationship
• Identify feelings and needs and learn to express them constructively without finger pointing or withdrawing
• Learn how to better understand, respect, and appreciate your partner’s perspectives and feelings
• Learn to take responsibility of our contribution to some problems
• Recognize that you can improve what you do before your partner is able to stop his defensive and controlling behavior
• Learn to think, feel, and act more constructively when difficulties arise
• Accept that you are the only one who is responsible for what you feel, think, and do
• Respect the other, accept the differences, and give each other space to develop his/her uniqueness

All of these modifications will allow the two of you bring out the best of each other and lead to a flourishing relationship.