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The Holidays

Alone for the Holidays

By Estee Goren, M.A.

The winter holidays are traditionally a celebration with family and friends. They represent a period of excitement and enjoyment, and embody a time when people look forward to reuniting with their loved ones and sharing the holiday spirit in happiness and delight. But for others, the holiday season may be stressful and depressing. This time of year may bring up memories of happier days with loved ones who are no longer around. Some may feel very lonely with no place to go and no one to spend time with. Others may want to be alone, but feel obligated to participate in social gatherings they don’t really want to attend.

This loneliness may trigger depression, despair, and self-destructive behavior. One way to cope with the situation and reduce the stress is to plan how to spend the time during the holidays. Some find it meaningful to volunteer; others prefer to reach out and make plans with friends who may be in a similar situation. Many will find it helpful to include a ritual that symbolizes the memory of their loved one. Being proactive and engaging in activities that bring pleasure can make it easier to get through this holiday season.

Estee Goren, M.A., is a Marriage & Family Therapist (MFC 50146) working with teens, adults and couples. She is specializing in relationship, life transitions, illnesses, grief, and personal development. Her goal is to help others gain a new perspective, overcome personal challenges, and improve their overall well-being.

New Year’s Resolution?

By Estee Goren, M.A.

As the New Year is here, many of us are planning to change our lifestyles. We set goals to work out more, lose weight, eat healthier, find a companion, and more. But we often end up keeping our commitments only for a short while, and soon fall back into our usual routine. Why is it that we can’t keep our commitments? Is it lack of willpower? Resistance to change? Or is it our unconscious mind that controls our feelings, thoughts, and behavior?

To make a lasting change in our life, we need to be fully aware of our beliefs, emotions, and habits, and the effects they have on our lives. We need to have a clear vision of our desired lifestyle, and we need to understand our actions and reactions to certain events. We also must discover our underlying motives, and the true reasons we pursue those goals and dreams. Only then we will truly create and follow a roadmap that promotes meaningful and lasting results.

Estee Goren, M.A., is a Marriage & Family Therapist (MFC 50146) working with teens, adults and couples. She is specializing in relationship, life transitions, illnesses, grief, and personal development. Her goal is to help others gain a new perspective, overcome personal challenges, and improve their overall well-being.


Estee Goren, MA, MFT
MFC 50146

425 El Pintado Road, Suite 101
Danville, CA 94526

(925) 399-1177

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